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Life Lesson Learning #3

Another day to be thankful for! Here is my Life Lesson #3:  Mind Your Business

Now this a phrase noteworthy to its meaning and usage, so be careful.

Here is a link to where you can explore all types of information about this powerful and popular three word phrase Mind Your Business .

How many of you recall the comeback phrase when someone would tell you to mind your business? In my younger days, which was long ago but not that long ago, 🙂 went something like, my mind is my business. Sound familiar?

Well, how about there is deep truth and meaning to the phrase and yes it definitely teaches a lesson of it’s own. My mind is my responsibility to manage, not a society that teaches me to disregard humanity.

Managing myself means learning positive behaviors to do just that and yes, that is my business. Be careful because sometimes we need help in managing ourselves. It’s where the line of privacy is usually drawn. Sometimes there is an out-of-control factor that plays a significant role in effectively managing ourselves. Maybe some type of disruption in the mental process, social influence or the lack of self-control skills. Good news is there is hope.

What I’ve learned most about minding my business and the term my mind is my business is that they are just about one in the same. By becoming self-aware, I have learned that in addition to respecting the privacy of other’s, I have the God given right to embrace my blessings and not allow anyone or anything to distract me from my purpose.

This process is hardly easy with all of life’s distractions; however, if I continue to practice positive thinking (regardless of) I can have a fulfilling life. I am learning to share some very private parts of myself in order to demonstrate this practice. I will continue to broaden my perspective and share it and it is your CHOICE to engage. (remember we all have a choice in the matter) and so I will continue to believe in a better me and I pray from my heart, from my soul that I can the BEST of ME, for myself and for others.        And that’s how I’m minding my business.

That about does it for now and I hope you will continue to visit me here. Please don’t forget to share this post and any other of my posts so that someone who may need to learn of these similar lessons in life can be made aware of them.

Some people have been blessed to have learned from the lessons presented in life (not necessarily all negative) however; there are some who may need our help and if that means minding your business so that you can be of better service to others then I recommend you do just that and learn to Mind Your Business.

Have you checked out The Triumph In Me a story I’ve written to bring awareness to the importance of choices.

Thank you for your time! Smiles and blessings to you!

 

Contradictions! Annoying?

Hey guys, hope all is well!

Today I am sharing some of life’s contradictions I have found to be annoying and confusing. As I have decided to share personal experiences with you all, these are my personal opinions. I am in no way judging anyone or anyone’s way of thinking. We are all works in progress, myself included, and so if you find contradiction in anything I post then that is my intended point. Here we go:

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#1  There are so many messages circulating the world about not giving up. “Never give up on your dreams.” “Keep Pushing.”  Well what about the sayings of, “Know when to throw the towel in.” “Enough is Enough.” Oh, and my favorite “Knowing when to walk away is wisdom. Being able to is Courage.”  Now I’m not sure about anyone else but this confusing the hell out of me. As I am trying my damnedest to hold on and keep fighting the good fight. I am trying to pursue a journey of success that I never thought was possible. But because of those sayings of, “If you could Imagine it, You could Achieve it.” “Never give up Dreaming.”  I feel as though I am on a hamster wheel. Chasing my own tail. I have prayed on it and truly believe I am supposed to be doing a good service to others by sharing my personal experiences of beating the odds and overcoming some difficult life challenges. To help others who may be trapped in their darkness. I must admit, this shit is exhausting. I am drained and it doesn’t seem as if anyone care what I must say, let alone is inspired in anyway. So, my question is, do I throw the towel in? It wouldn’t necessarily be due to giving up but more so saving myself from destruction. I am wearing myself out trying to be a voice for those of unheard voices. Are you depressed, newly disabled or just feel like no one sees you, hear you? I don’t think I am the only one who fits the bill but I could always be wrong. I shouldn’t give up just because it seems as if nothing is happening, rite? I never know who is watching and maybe I am here for a reason not yet revealed to me as I thought it was.

#2   Next we have “Never say Never.” Ummmm, if I’m not mistaken, this refers to anything being possible. To never say what you won’t do or won’t say because you may someday find yourself doing it or saying it, rite? Sooooo, if I am never to give up then how in the heck am I supposed to know when to walk away. This is a similar confusion as mentioned in #1. Help me out folks, let’s talk about it. Now don’t get it twisted, I am a believer of all these especially never say never. Example: I NEVER thought I would have written a book and people have actually read it and thought it was pretty damn great. Whoa! Me? Really? YES me, I wrote a fuckin book. A story of both weakness and strength! The Triumph In Me.

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#3   This is recap of a previous post I did on life’s contradictions. Maybe you’d agree or maybe you won’t. It’s okay; that’s what makes us different, rite?

There are no special instructions on how to cope with the extremes of life but there are certain remedies that can lessen the mass affects.

I have found that prayer is the #1 key to my life. I am not about to preach the word however I am a witness to its glory. Life is hard, it’s just that simple but if we learn to utilize some hardcore combat, it can be quite enjoyable too.

Selflessness for starters can take you a long way. The idea of treating others the way you would want to be treated is an important aspect but it tends to get lost within our typical behavior. If you can consider helping another individual, no matter how direct or indirect it may be, without regard to reciprocation, I can assure you, that help will find its way back around in some shape or form. Karma you may call it, that saying of “what goes around comes back around”, yes, I believe in that saying however its plenty of old wise tales that go hand in hand for instance, “you reap what you sow” or how about “every dog has its day”, so keep these old wise tales in mind when making decisions in life.

Selfishness is that behavior that can make or break you in a sense, it is a very fine line not to cross, so be careful. Remember that “God only helps those who help themselves,” they say, but that’s a fine line because he is so merciful that he will be of rescue despite of, however you must know that you have to look out for yourself first before you can expect the next person to follow suit. If you can learn that loving yourself is as worthy as loving another including your children, then life’s perception will be that much more clear to see. Yes, I said love yourself even before your children because a parent that does not love themselves will impact the lives of their children in ways that aren’t always positive and although these impacts are not intentional will not make them nonexistent. Same case for your partner in life be it a spouse or just a significant other, ask yourself “how can you possibly expect to have a healthy relationship when you are not even healthy enough to love yourself?”
Today, we see all kinds of contradictions in our entertainment, politics and education. I am not in the best position to speak on all the details of such, I will leave that to all the other blogs out there that somehow specialize in those areas. I will say though we are blinded by this stuff and easily to forget how our own minds and the resulted behavior of which we live day to day becomes insulting, demeaning and subliminally destructive. We destruct the hope and possibilities of sustaining healthy, fulfilling, enjoyable lives.

Now there may be many to disagree or feel as though without an extended education or have earned a mastering degree, who the hell am I to speak to such manners. Well I am me, and I am living a life in this world we all were born into and so I have earned a degree in “LIFE” and these are my personal opinions and my voice in which I choose not to leave unheard any longer.  I am finally taking ownership and responsibility of myself and who I once was and now have become, we all are a work in progress and must recognize that and learn to appreciate it as well.

Your voice, rightfully given to you. It is the tool in life of which you should want to learn its value if you haven’t already. Respect yourself and others no matter what because once respect is lost anything goes from that point. Just think a minute how you treat those you have no respect for, how you speak to them, how you view them, how they lost their creditability with you. Now imagine you not having respect for yourself and the behaviors others may inflict on you. Not so pretty rite?

As I share my story with you, there will be moments when you will say that I’ve contradicted myself during various times in my life and that my parenting may even seem contradicting as well, but hey that’s the way of the world, life is full of contradictions, so before you pass judgment on me, I suggest you clean your mirror off most importantly and then take a glimpse in it.

As life taught me its lessons and as I learned what faith was, I passed it along to my only born child and as you follow my story, our story, it will become apparent that this bond between mother and child was created in such a way that it is not easily understood by many. God created us and our story before we fleshly existed and so it has come to me that who am I to be “selfish” and not share the power of his glory. This is my “selfless” duty.

When my destiny became visible to me, I always thought my daughter was my reason for existing until I learned and grew as a person. Now I know she is just part of me. Not all of me. I will share my experiences, the lessons taught to me and the impact of such. It is my hopes you find this story not only inspiring but also necessary. It will depict how even when faced with the most challenging obstacles, we must fight like hell and continue. We all have our stories of our lives and it is these stories that make the world what it is…So if we can be mindful of what and how we perceive life to be and follow through with positive mannerism, maybe, just maybe things can be different.williamarthurward110017

If you are one who thinks no one cares or is interested in anything you have to say, I do!

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Dear Self,

Have you ever gotten so down that you just had to have a talk with yourself?

I speak to God all the time but this was a talk I had with myself. To put things back into perspective. To remind myself of who I am.

Dear Self,

I know its been some time since we’ve had a one on one chat with one another and it seems like we are way overdue. First of all I want you to know how extremely proud I am of you. I can see you’re wearing thin. I can see the imminence of discouragement making its way to your face. Even myself and many others fight hard to remain positive in what seems to be impossible situations to get through. But I know that you know just how awesome God is at times like that.

Self, you must hold on to the very faith that brought you through the most challenging times in our life. Trust me I was there with you, remember?

Now being as though you have stepped out on that faith and began this new venture of writing, you are feeling tested yet again. Many are telling you that God had placed this gift within you since the beginning of your existence; that he took us through serious stuff just to prove to you now that this is your calling. Many are saying that you should be sharing our experiences with others and showing those who may need to hear that they too can beat the odds they feel are against them.

Self, keep in mind and stand strong in believing that you and I have conquered issues that most wouldn’t even understand. You are a warrior and don’t you ever doubt nor forget it.

Self, take a moment to think about the life you have lived and it will show you the life you are now living and the life’s possibilities of your future. You have raised an amazing daughter with next to little support. You have worked many different jobs on all levels to maintain an independent lifestyle. You have extended help to others in need. You have endured life threatening health conditions and you are still pushing beyond measure. I must say I am moved by your drive, your determination. God has not led you wrong thus far; although sometimes we feel differently.

You have now decided to step out as a writer. Never considering yourself a writer in the past; you somehow was able to create one heck of a story that contains so many life lessons many can relate to. You chose to speak on subject matter that takes enormous courage to discuss. You will reach many who may need a little uplifting in their life. I know you feel the process has exhausted you both physically and mentally but the same one who has made the entire accomplishment possible will be the same one who will strengthen you through it. Blessings have and will continue to fall upon your life. I know first hand self that your heart is in the right place. Your needs will be met. You will get that motorized wheelchair you so desperately need. You will get that bath chair lift you daydream about. A nice warm bubble bath sure does sound good to me too. You will get to go on a luxury vacation one of these days. Keep praying. Keep promoting your anointed work. Keep your head up in a positive manner.

I love you self! I admire you self! I am so proud to be a part of you!

I hope this little chat has done you some good. I feel better and am glad you chose to express your feelings with me. I am you! You are me! We are self!