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Life Lesson Learning #3

Another day to be thankful for! Here is my Life Lesson #3:  Mind Your Business

Now this a phrase noteworthy to its meaning and usage, so be careful.

Here is a link to where you can explore all types of information about this powerful and popular three word phrase Mind Your Business .

How many of you recall the comeback phrase when someone would tell you to mind your business? In my younger days, which was long ago but not that long ago, 🙂 went something like, my mind is my business. Sound familiar?

Well, how about there is deep truth and meaning to the phrase and yes it definitely teaches a lesson of it’s own. My mind is my responsibility to manage, not a society that teaches me to disregard humanity.

Managing myself means learning positive behaviors to do just that and yes, that is my business. Be careful because sometimes we need help in managing ourselves. It’s where the line of privacy is usually drawn. Sometimes there is an out-of-control factor that plays a significant role in effectively managing ourselves. Maybe some type of disruption in the mental process, social influence or the lack of self-control skills. Good news is there is hope.

What I’ve learned most about minding my business and the term my mind is my business is that they are just about one in the same. By becoming self-aware, I have learned that in addition to respecting the privacy of other’s, I have the God given right to embrace my blessings and not allow anyone or anything to distract me from my purpose.

This process is hardly easy with all of life’s distractions; however, if I continue to practice positive thinking (regardless of) I can have a fulfilling life. I am learning to share some very private parts of myself in order to demonstrate this practice. I will continue to broaden my perspective and share it and it is your CHOICE to engage. (remember we all have a choice in the matter) and so I will continue to believe in a better me and I pray from my heart, from my soul that I can the BEST of ME, for myself and for others.        And that’s how I’m minding my business.

That about does it for now and I hope you will continue to visit me here. Please don’t forget to share this post and any other of my posts so that someone who may need to learn of these similar lessons in life can be made aware of them.

Some people have been blessed to have learned from the lessons presented in life (not necessarily all negative) however; there are some who may need our help and if that means minding your business so that you can be of better service to others then I recommend you do just that and learn to Mind Your Business.

Have you checked out The Triumph In Me a story I’ve written to bring awareness to the importance of choices.

Thank you for your time! Smiles and blessings to you!

 

Self-Awareness

Hey guys, this is how the start of my new happily ever after began.

There could be a million different reasons as to why a person can want to live a different lifestyle from their own. Perhaps, the lifestyle they have become accustomed to no longer fulfills them or maybe the change was forced upon them. It doesn’t really matter what the reasoning is; the choice is yours.

My personal experience has led me to the practicing of self-awareness.

By definition self-awareness is the conscious knowledge of one’s own character, feelings, motives, and desires.  I found this great article that explains the process in full details. Hope you find it helpful.  Self-Awareness has been a huge key to the transformation of my life.

As most of you have learned through some of my previous posts, I have been challenged with both mental & physical Illness, including losing my ability to walk. Depression has been a big struggle for me over the years. Medication therapy, psychotherapy and support groups are most effective when you commit to them. I never did. Some will say I brought the struggles on myself because help was available. Here was my problem: I didn’t even feel worth the effort. It didn’t matter if help was or wasn’t available; I never committed. I suffered with low self-esteem, lack of confidence and an overall negative outlook on life. I did not feel I was worth the effort. My relationships paid the price. How?  I was dependent upon others to provide me with self-worth. Sounds crazy, rite? Well it was easy. I looked for love, happiness and joy from others, such as my daughter. I felt I wasn’t capable of creating these emotions or experience them without the need of others. The funniest thing about it is that although the people closest to me tried to make me happy, it was never enough for me. I couldn’t seem to reach a sense of satisfaction. I was so hungry for love and happiness that it didn’t occur to me until more recently that the missing piece was self-love. I didn’t love myself and that is a steep hole to fill. My daughter has been the only one to love me unconditionally and I use “unconditionally” lightly. She had no problem with snapping me back to earth whenever I acted out in her presence. She would not allow me to embarrass either one of us, especially her. ☺ I love my daughter so much.

My ex girlfriend came damn close to filling me with love. Despite all the chaos I took her through, she still chose to love me. Now to make a long story short, she and I are no longer together. There were lots of lost trust, betrayal  and lies paired with a bit of fear that led to the ending of our happily ever after. Here is the point and not to dwell too much on the past but maybe if I had loved myself enough I may not have inflicted so much of that chaos on any of our lives.

Self-love is important. How else can you fully love another without loving yourself?